Just because it is hard to do, does not mean it is impossible to achieve

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Life Transitions: Separation, Divorce, Remarriage

Your marriage is no longer working for you. You've thought long and hard about this. The pain is too great. The benefits are too little. You're contemplating or having an affair. Is this the answer? You need to move on. How?

Are you grappling with any of these quandaries? If so, I can help you.

Making the Decision

What is going on here?
What am I doing?
Riding the roller coaster of my emotions
Is this worth it?
What is being played out?
Am I in the blame game?
How do I take care of myself
How do I know the right thing for me to do? For us?
Can there be a separation without war?
How can I live with myself?
How can I live by myself?

For the Sake of the Children

Are my children better off if we stay together?
Assessing the damage
Keeping them out of the middle

Getting on with getting on . . .

Uncoupling

Thinking like an "I", not a "We"
Getting through the pain
Surviving the emotions of ending a relationship
Disentangling
His friends, Her friends, Who will stay? Who will go?
What will happen to my children? My home? My way of life?

Will I survive the Legalities

Divorce attorneys vs Mediators
How do I protect myself
Resources
Custody issues: joint or solo

How to Navigate The Children

How to tell the children
How to provide continuity and security
How to help them go between mom's house and dad's house

Life goes on . . .

Parenting with an Ex

Relating in a new way
Developing a new working relationship
Rules of engagement
Learning how to move from
- wanting to battle, but needing to relate
- an intimate relationship to a "business" relationship

Re-marriage

Here I go again!
A new chance
Remembering the old, moving in with the new
Sadness and grieving what could have been
Step children, step parents

Getting through the tough times can be a rough ride. It's helpful to have a neutral ear. You don't have to go it alone.

Please don't hesitate to contact me for a confidential consultation. I can help you figure it out. At this time due to the covid-19 pandemic, I am conducting all consulation sessions on a HIPAA-compliant Zoom platform.

For a list of very helpful books on the subject of children and divorce, please visit the Resources page of my website.

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Fran Weiss, LCSW-R, BCD, DCSW, CGP, Psychotherapist